Swingers Etiquette

As in any social activity, there are expected rules of conduct in swinging. Following the rules are an effective way to make yourself welcome within the swinging community.

The Golden Rule
The Golden Rule in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No". Improper handling of a situation, however, can lead to a lot of hurt or bad feelings. The swing world accepts this rule that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime. It should be done with a simple "No, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is what causes the problems and the pain. Tell the hosts if another guest causes a problem. They sincerely want to know so they can correct the problem. A Good mental attitude and emotional health will make you popular. The person with the smile, ready laugh and an obvious interest in others is the person others like to be around.

Be Friendly
Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be courteous and polite.

Be Courteous
Courteously is how we all want to be treated, with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity. Courtesy is treating people the way we want to be treated. Everyone has the right of refusal. Only ask those you want to say "yes." If they say "no," take it graciously. When you say "yes" to others, be honest and enthusiastic. When you say "no," be tactful and courteous.

Be Clean and Fresh
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or unfresh breath.

Respect Others
Not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, are relaxed and enjoying themselves. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous.

Don't Be Pushy
Remember that freedom of choice is every individual's right in swinging and respecting that right is only common courtesy. Learn how to handle a No, thank you graciously. If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.

Do Only What You Consider Fun
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

Practice Safe Sex
It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases the use of condoms should not offend anybody.

Say Thanks
The social courtesy of a 'Thank-You Note' or phone call to someone whose hospitality you enjoyed means a lot to most people, and they will surely remember you when planning their next event.

Respond To Invitations
RSVP means please reply to the invitation. The most frustrating part of hosting, is people who are discourteous enough not to respond, Good etiquette and good social courtesy require you respond.

Don't Arrive Empty Handed If it's a house party
When you go to someone's home for a party, ask if there is something you can bring.

Be Prepared
Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc.

Alcohol and Drugs
Most do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. A few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you.

Be Good Hosts
When you have people coming to your home, put clean sheets on the beds; keep plenty of clean washcloths and towels available. Show your guests through the house.

Responding To Ads
A first letter should include a brief description of yourselves, where you saw the ad, your ad number and your social and sexual interests. A profile link to your profile should be included with your original reply as many couples receive a large number of replies which can be time consuming to reply to. All replies to an ad should be answered in two weeks even if it is a No.

Above All, Enjoy Yourself
Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude. You are there to have the best of times and to share the uninhibited enjoyment with those who have discovered a new dimension in their lifestyles. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other people. You'll find them eager to welcome you.